Nancy E Turner once said that “the best thing a girl can be is a good wife and mother. It is a girl’s highest calling. I hope I am ready.” Which got me thinking.. can you ever really be prepared for motherhood?
I thought I was until I had Toby. I’m the eldest of all the children in my family (yes, the one who gets the blame for everything because I am older and should know better), so for me there’s always been a baby in the family. I’ve put in quite a lot of babysitting hours over the years and can honestly say I’ve learned lots of parenting tips from some of the best. However, it’s not quite the same when it’s your own children is it?
You don’t realise just how hard it is. The long nights, constant exhaustion and forever questioning if what you’re doing is the right thing. The best person you can learn from is yourself. Instinct really does kick in and take over and, believe me, you will do the job perfectly well. I’ve heard that there is no such thing as the perfect mother, and there isn’t, but it doesn’t mean there aren’t thousands of ways in which you can be a good one.
I’d considered blogging for a while, especially since baby brain had well and truly kicked in, but wondered whether I’d ever have the time to do it. How I ever used to fit in a life before I had a baby I will never know. But I can safely say that, at 13 weeks post childbirth, I finally have an hour or two to spare in the evening to still do something for me. Yes, above all, I am now a mum to the most precious little boy I have ever known and I would give up every spare minute I had for him. But, just as important, is that you are still you. You still need time to be yourself and enjoy the things you did before. Your life is never quite the same, if anything it’s better with your children in tow, but they do not stop you doing the things you used to do. You don’t have to give up your little vices, you just make them part of what you love.
Essentially this blog will be my life on a page. Somewhere my family and friends can come and keep up with what’s going on, the trials and tribulations as I try to be ‘Wonder Woman”, but also a place for memories. Things we can look back on in years to come and remember the little things we did, because it’s the little things that count.
I am about to begin my journey into Raising the Rings and I hope you enjoy coming along with us.