Pregnancy | What’s It Like With A Toddler?

Hard bloody work. That’s what it’s like! Since I’ll soon be finding out what it’s like to have a newborn and a toddler soon, I wanted to put down how I feel about being pregnant and having a toddler. Is it really that hard? I’m not sure I’m coping as well as I thought I might.

I’ve just had a few days recently that haven’t necessarily been demanding and full on, but have just genuinely felt like seriously hard work. I think it’s because I’m tired. I’m not best pleased that I keep waking up way before I could, especially when it’s nothing to do with Toby or Jamie. All the extra blood I have pumping around my body has swollen all the vessels in my nose which means it feels well and truly blocked 24/7. I literally have bogeys the size of saucepan lids, a seriously dry mouth and while we’re at it just throw in some random nosebleeds to top it off.

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Anyway, I digress, and you probably didn’t want to know about my nasal habits. If I’m not sleeping due to this wicked blocked nose then it’s because Toby is teething or I can’t get comfortable – there’s nothing like a 50 point turn to roll from your left side to your right, and back again, general pregnancy insomnia and all round feeling agitated. The lack of sleep is a killer. It’s not too bad during your first pregnancy because you do have opportunities to nap without having to think about what your 19 month old is doing.

This leads to everyone being in different moods. I normally have my ‘face on’ because I need a full 12 hours to get over the crap 6-7 hours I’ve just had, whereas Jamie has slept like a baby and is quite happy, and Toby has never been more full of energy. It’s not a great set up to the day to be fair and, even if I get the opportunity to sleep during the day, I’ve already found myself doing something around the house, or trying to catch up with the blog. I am no day time napper and know I’d wake up feeling much worse.

Anyone who is sleep deprived will know that patience does tend to wear thin, and I have to admit (sorry, Jamie) that I have been an utter cow. Sometimes he’s only trying to be nice, or ask a question and I’ll jump down his throat because I’ve misheard him. Toby has been snapped at, the poor boy, so I always make an effort to give him a cuddle and kiss and tell him I didn’t mean it if I’ve completely overreacted about something he’s done.

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Speaking of which, you have a constant battle going on in your head about whether you want to sit down for your spare 5 minutes, or play with your child? I tend to make sure I’m interacting with him, even if I have to force myself. These last few weeks of him being an only child are precious and I want him to remember that I played with him. In fairness, he’s quite happy kicking a football round the kitchen on his own if I really need to sit down, but I’d so much rather play with him.

Physically, it’s a work out. I’ve had to cut down on picking Toby up like I usually would because I am struggling. It affects my lower back, my sciatic nerve and occasionally I’ll get a sharp pain across my bump. Obviously, the bigger you get the harder it becomes. I thought I’d be able to get used to it but I’ve had to listen to my body, so now if he wants to be picked up, I’ll get right down to his level so he can give me a cuddle while I’m sitting down.

You remember when you had baby brain right? And it soon turned to mummy brain? Well, mummy brain doesn’t disappear when you get pregnant, or revert back to baby brain. You get both of them together. I am now utterly forgetful and completely useless unless I’ve written it down somewhere, and even then I have to remember to look!

I honestly can’t wait until I have a newborn and a toddler. Yes, you may think it’s harder but I’m praying it’ll be easier. At least I’ll hopefully be able to implement some sort of routine without sacrificing the time Toby gets with me. I’ll be able to pick him up again how I used to and twirl around with him, dance in the kitchen without feeling like I’m going to put something out of place and play football in the garden with him without getting too breathless.

How did you find being pregnant and having a toddler? Was it easier once the baby was born?

I just hope Toby is prepared for the changes, because I’m ready! Modern Dad Pages

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27 Comments

  1. May 10, 2015 / 6:18 pm

    I just love the quote about two year olds and sleep!! I ABSOLUTELY revert to my 2 year old self when I have a disturbed night! I would definitely give my two year old twins a run for their money, that’s for sure!! 😉 Thanks for linking up to #TwinklyTuesday x

    Caro | http://www.thetwinklediaries.co.uk

    • raisingtherings
      May 10, 2015 / 8:19 pm

      It’s so true isn’t it? I am the world’s mardiest toddler when I’m tired, or hungry, or cold haha. I usually need to nap more than the toddler xx

  2. May 10, 2015 / 4:23 am

    I have no experience in this area but it doesn’t sound easy. I can’t imagine how it must be to be pregnant, with a toddler. All the best as you make the most of the ‘only child’ time that you have left with your little one, and indeed I really hope it easier once your newborn is here. :-) #aNoviceMumCommentLuv

    • raisingtherings
      May 10, 2015 / 8:28 pm

      Thank you lovely. Hopefully it will get easier, we’ll soon find out! x

  3. May 8, 2015 / 7:31 pm

    I honestly found being pregnant with a toddler harder than having a newborn and a toddler, I was like a beached whale the whole pregnancy, at least the baby goes to sleep haha! Thank you for sharing in #KidsCorner x

    • raisingtherings
      May 9, 2015 / 1:17 pm

      That’s encouraging to know! I’m so looking forward to not being pregnant anymore, it’s such hard work haha. Let’s just hope they nap at the same time! xx

  4. Everything Mummy
    May 7, 2015 / 9:59 pm

    ahh i really do feel for you I know the last stages of pregnancy are so tough and even more so with a toddler in tow my last pregnancy was horrible towards the end i was so knackered but had two toddlers to run around after in between full on cleaning the house top to bottom every day because i turn ridiculously OCD when pregnant and people kept say take a rest HA if only! hope your nose starts feeling better soon and you can get a little more sleep! And thank you for linking up to #kidscorner xx

    • raisingtherings
      May 8, 2015 / 7:55 am

      Oh bless you. And here’s me moaning about just having one – I suppose I need to suck it up if I want 3 or 4 kids haha. I know what you mean about feeling OCD, I get it too, I just can’t relax most of the time. Thanks lovely x

  5. May 7, 2015 / 2:36 am

    Hang in there is all I can say! It will pass! I watched my wife go through it and it takes some time, but you will come out the other side. Just try and keep a level head as best you can (I know that is not easy especially being sleep deprived alone and then add the pregnancy) Get some “me’ time if you can to rejuvenate a bit! What a completely honest post! I loved reading it! Thank you so much for lining up on #wineandboobs

  6. May 6, 2015 / 7:49 pm

    I feel for you, I really do! This is why I am waiting a whole longer before I try for the next baby, I’m thinking a 3 to 3 1/2 year age gap. Can’t wait to see pics of the new baby! #kidscorner

    Carolyn

    http://stylishmemories.com

  7. May 6, 2015 / 7:26 pm

    Great to read. Just had my first but know for sure there will be a second. Good luck in your journey I’ll keep reading your blog x

    • raisingtherings
      May 6, 2015 / 7:29 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it, thanks for popping in! Thank you, I’ll be sure to keep you all updated about what life is like with a toddler and newborn xx

  8. May 6, 2015 / 12:23 pm

    I definitely agree being pregnant with a toddler is hard! I cannot wait to be able to play with Indiana properly without getting stuck on the floor, or aching loads. Roll on having two under two haha xx

  9. May 5, 2015 / 9:36 pm

    Stopping by via #TwinklyTuesday.

    Thanks for sharing insights into the realities of being pregnant while raising a toddler. My wife was in a similar position twice. We had two toddler boys while she was pregnant with our twin girls.

    The challenges didn’t get easier after birth, they just got different.

    • raisingtherings
      May 5, 2015 / 9:43 pm

      Oh you’ve made me feel really bad for having a moan now! Haha. She must be super duper woman, I don’t know how she done that.. must have a super supportive husband 😉 x

  10. May 5, 2015 / 9:35 pm

    Great blog, was interesting to read as I’ll be TTC next year so may be experiencing pregnancy with a 2-year-old, which sounds scary! Hope you’re feeling better soon!

    The Speed Bump
    #twinklytuesday

    • raisingtherings
      May 5, 2015 / 9:43 pm

      I’m not going to lie.. it’s not easy! Good luck with TTC xx

  11. What Mummy Did Next
    May 5, 2015 / 9:30 pm

    I think the pregnancy is harder than the newborn. It’s a real physical struggle and poor little toddlers don’t understand that. I went 10 days over with Little N and on the tenth day I took Little P to the beach for a picnic in sweltering heat. When we were leaving I gathered all our things (bag, blanket, bucket and spade etc) and just managed to pick Little P up as the sand was too hot for her to walk and then she dropped her ball! I nearly cried! #TwinklyTuesday

    • raisingtherings
      May 5, 2015 / 9:41 pm

      I do feel like I could cry. I have so many more symptoms this time round in terms of aches and pains that I never had in my first pregnancy. At least once the baby is here and I’ve recovered after my section I can lift Toby without it being too much of an effort, and play football with him in the garden. I think everything is just physically 10x harder when you’re pregnant and feeling rubbish. I think I’d have had a breakdown if that had been me xx

  12. May 5, 2015 / 9:27 pm

    I feel like I could have written this post! I definitely can’t wait to have a newborn and a toddler as opposed to a toddler and a pregnancy!! Ella has had hand, foot and mouth the last few days. I was up with her for 3 hours one night. Then couldn’t sleep! Wah!! Defobe easier when baby’s here! Right?!! Xx

    • raisingtherings
      May 5, 2015 / 9:38 pm

      It blooming well better be, or I fear I’m not going to survive haha. I hope Ella’s better soon bless her heart. I’d be alright if I got the sleep I needed! xx

  13. May 5, 2015 / 8:40 pm

    I remember this well and it gets so much easier! I didn’t do well with being pregnant. I couldn’t sleep and I was so tired and grumpy all the time.

    My second baby was a good napper and so was my toddler, I did get in some good daytime naps and even though I was tired it’s a different sort of tired. I still think being pregnant is the hardest part of having kids. Hang in there – not much longer to go!

    • raisingtherings
      May 5, 2015 / 9:39 pm

      I hope so. I don’t think it helps that I’m just so fed up of being pregnant! I am so horrible at the moment, feeling tired and run down by the toddler and housework isn’t helpful. Fingers crossed I can get them napping at the same time! xx

  14. May 5, 2015 / 8:02 pm

    I love your comment about becoming two-year-olds! Hang in there! You won’t have a painful back for much longer. As a mother of six, I hope it’s okay to tell you something about having a newborn and toddler. Make sure your older one gets plenty of lap time after the baby arrives. Sometimes it will be the last thing you want to do, but it will make a world of difference to him. It sounds like you are already doing well! Keep up the good work. Stopping by from Twinkly Tuesday.

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