If your child decides to move abroad, whether to study or pursue their dreams, you’ll probably feel a mix of emotions. Pride, concern, doubt. These are all valid, but it’s important to remain objective and think of what’s best for them. I’m a long way off having any of these feelings at the moment, but with considering independent schools and potentially boarding it almost feels like our eldest could be moving away when he moves up to senior school.
They may choose somewhere like the USA or Australia if they don’t choose to just move further afield in the UK – all are among the most popular destinations for international students – or they may go further afield. No matter where they choose to go, it’s our responsibility as parents to help them make the most of it. Here’s how you can help them to thrive while taking on their own adventure abroad, while also managing your own feelings around them leaving.
It’s important to keep the line between knowing they are growing and independent people capable of more than we realise and if we’re in a position to support them while they’re growing and learning, then I think we should help steer them as best as we can.
Emotional Support and Regular Communication
This is likely the first time your child will have been away from home for an extended period of time. They might feel homesick or lonely in their new environment, in addition to the potential for culture shock. And you might find that life at home feels pretty different too, which can be hard at first. So, try to maintain regular communication while they’re settling in.
Offer regular phone calls or video calls that work for both time zones and send the occasional encouraging message to let them know you’re thinking of them. But don’t put too much pressure on them – find the right balance so they have the space to be independent alongside the reassurance you’re there if they need you.
Financial Planning and Budgeting
Money is usually a considerable factor when living away from home for the first time. Factor in exchange rates and surprise costs, and it can become a bit overwhelming. Talk your child through creating a realistic budget – one that covers food, transport, social activities and more, helping them to spend responsibly and not overstretch themselves.
In case of emergencies, set up an online money transfer so you can step in if you’re in a position to be able to do so.
Health and Wellbeing
Moving abroad is a whole world of new. New foods, new climates, new services. These can all have an effect on your child’s wellbeing, so it’s important they know how to look after themselves if something happens. Make sure they have good health insurance in case they need assistance and encourage them to register with a local doctor. Discuss the importance of staying healthy, including proper nutrition, regular exercise, and mental health practices.
Good habits are well worth getting into early on, as they can then become part of their routine.
Academic and Career Guidance
Academic institutions vary around the world, which might come as a surprise to your child if it differs a fair amount from what they’re used to. Support them by showing interest in their courses and studies, while reminding them to make use of campus resources. Office hours, tutoring services, and academic advisors are all there to help them as well, especially when they face challenges.
Encouraging Cultural Adaptation and Independence
Something everyone who moves abroad will face is cultural differences, which can come from a language barrier and different cultural norms. Learn about local customs alongside your child and encourage them to join student groups so they can get experience of these things first hand.
Remind them that trying new things not only makes their time abroad better, but builds resilience and a wider world view that will help them throughout life – so embrace the change.