A Letter To My Big Brother Toby

Hi Toby

We haven’t met yet and I’m pretty sure you don’t know we’re going to meet either, even though Mummy and Daddy have done their absolute best to try and prepare you. I’m your little brother; currently tucked up inside Mummy’s tummy, just as you were once, and I’m getting ready to make my appearance next week, or sooner.. I’m not sure yet.

I just wanted to write you a little letter before we meet for the first time. There are a couple of things I think you should know before Mummy and Daddy bring me home. I know you’re going to be staying with Nanny and Pop the night before I’m due to come out so you won’t see me straight away.

First, and most importantly, you should know that I am not here to replace you. I am here to grow with you and learn from you. You will be loved and liked no less, although their attention won’t always be on you now. You always command the attention from anyone who is in the same room as you at the minute, and you get it! But when I come along, you might have to share the attention with me just a little bit, especially if Mummy is feeding me, or Daddy is trying to settle me.

I know how you feel about your toys, and you’ve only had to share them a couple of times before, but I’d really like to play with them too. I’ll have my own for a little while, and I’m sure you’ll try and take those for yourself too, but I don’t mind sharing with you, because that’s what little brothers do.

I have so much planned for us Toby. Together, with Dad, we’re going to take on Mummy and rule the house, but let me tell you now that she won’t really mind. And on our own, we’ll be a right pair; giggling one minute, crying the next and wreaking havoc to keep Mummy and Daddy on their toes! We’ll play football in the garden Toby and you can teach me how to say ‘GOOOOAL’. We might even get to watch Paw Patrol together if you still like it.

We can wrestle and tackle each other all day when we’re older, but as I’ll only be quite little, I think hugs and kisses will be ok for now. Eventually, I’ll be big enough and probably want to want to eat your food, drink your drink, wear your clothes, follow you around and copy everything you do. It might annoy you Toby, but please remember I am learning and I want to learn from the best, just so I can be the best little brother ever.

I hope you will welcome me with lots of kisses, strokes and cuddles. This will probably help Mummy feel better about everything. It’s hard for her to think she could possibly share the love she has for you with me.

All I ask from you is some patience. Both with me, and with Mummy and Daddy, because having two boys under two will be a whole new experience for them too. It’s probably going to be one of the biggest shocks of their lives, but one of the best things ever to see us grow up together – sharing sunny days out, Christmas, Easter and rainy days in making lots of tat that Mummy and Daddy will proudly display on their fridge.

Together we will share so many experiences Toby, so many memories and so much love because you’re going to be my big brother, my role model, partner in crime, best friend and I’m sure there’ll be times when we’re arch enemies.

I hope you like me Toby and I know you’ll get used to me being around eventually. I will always be your little brother no matter what, and we’ll always be two peas in a pod.

I love you already.

Little brother T xx